PC446 Life in Europe is like a sex movie 11/1/09
Mr "Life in Europe is like a sex movie"

- From- PC471t - I stopped in one town more indigenous with wattle and daub adobe thatched huts .... I met a "friend" someone who thinks he speaks English, and thinks that life in Europe is like a porno movie. Ha ha !

1. Of course it's Europe that is more moral

- with it's serial monogamy rather than the Asia where many men seem to be sex perverts and an attitude of "I am moral and married, but I try it on with every girl and use prostitutes" .. it's the developing countries that are full of prostitition, thank God that in developed countries women can make money in normal jobs).

- 2. People don't like me cos I tell the truth

we live in a world of false dreams and people don't like it when I contradict them. Each side of the world thinks the other is full of easy sex : The Nepali guys want to believe Europe is a place where people have no money problems and life is like a sex movie .. and they are not prepared for the truth that life is not so easy.
- Many British people also often have a fake dream they think that travelling is one long string of liasons with exotic beautiful foreign girls, whereas I never meet any single women most are out of reach and even though in developing countries there are many seedy prostitition areas with lots of exploitation and HIV anyone intelligent stays away from them.

3. "Well there are lots of sex parties" he says

- .. no there aren't you idiot. People think wow in Europe there are beaches where people are completely naked and they imagine lots of beautiful people. Whereas if you actually went to a nude beach most people would be fat, ugly or old. Many people would look like your Grandma and Grandad ..so if there are any sex parties it will be the same far from everyone being beautiful many people would look like your Grandma and Grandad

4. European women come to chase Nepali men

- These guys also had another fantasy that European women like Nepali men
.. bad news it's not true
. I have no doubt that Nepali people think we are dogs cos we wear shoes in the house, put our left hands in our mouths and are so aggressive and direct in conversation. In England for sure I am in the least handsome 20% of men, but British women would still find me much more attractive than some man who spits, does that awful coughing up phelgm thing in the bathroom in the morning, or who makes loud noises while eating, or throws his garbage onto the floor or has sexist values cos his mother has spoilt him so he thinks men are better than women. She'd expect a man to be equal and not afraid of doing women's job's like cooking and cleaning.
- So I'd say there are some good Nepali men, but put me in a group of 100 Nepali men and I'd think 95 would be less attractive to western women than me.

-( I was very impressed to meet Rai man who was really being an equal, with cooking and cleaning and helping with the babies. Unfortunately for those good Nepali guys most foreign women willl be as prejudiced as me as expect them to be sexist slobs)

- They say western men like Japanese women, but for every 100 foreign men who marry a Japanese only 1 foreign women marry any Japanese men cos they are so bad.
- Most women are not stupid they know that the HIV rate in Nepal is much higher than western countries so sex with Nepali men is the last thing on their minds.
- Sure there will always be one or two "mentally weak" women fall for the false dream of the exotic handsome playboy types, but the other women are too polite to show their laughter. And most Nepali men like me are not in that handsome playboy category so surely won’t catch those women anyway.

5. Women want relationships and men just want quick sex"

- This idea these men have of a different girlfriend every week instead of long term relationships is only a fantasy.
- In reality if these guys meet a woman who they get close enough with to have sex with, do you really think that they are going to say goodbye after one day ? .. and then spend another 6 months without sex .. NO of course not they will go back to the same woman. Relationships mean easy sex ..not the work ofchasing a different woman every week.
-1. In reality or men it's not just a question of finding a "hole",he needs to feel something for the woman to make sex, but in fantasyland every woman is beautiful he will feel somethig for the woman , but in reality beautiful women are rare 1 in 500.
- 2. Also in fantasyland the next beautiful woman is easy to find , but in reality that's not true either ... if these guys meet a woman who they get close enough with to have sex with, do you really think that they are going to say goodbye after one day ? .. and then spend another 6 months without sex .. NO of course not they will go back to the same woman.
- 3. of course sex is better for men in a relationship .. is sex best the first time with a person ? .. no it gets better !

- This idea these men have of a different girlfriend every week instead of long term relationships is only a fantasy.
Relationships mean easy and better sex ..not the work of chasing a different woman every week. (maybe the variety would be interesting)

- I don't think women are so different if life was the fantasy maybe they would have sex with a different man everyday !

6. There is more sex in Europe NOT

- The Nepali guys think that in the west there are more sexual opportunities than in Asia .. I wouldn't say it's about even .. they say "you guys in England can just take a girl to a hotel", but that's the sexual fantasy idea not reality. In fantasyland every woman is your age, size and beautiful. In reality most women are not your age, your size, nor beautiful so finding a girlfriend is difficult.
- Once you find a girlfriend in England of course at some point you will have sex, but we don't have the same levels of prostitution they have in Asia. It's about even cos even though the West is more liberal, girlfriends are difficult to find and people are moral yet in Asia sex is easily available cos all a man does is go to a brothel.

- every woman is your daughter, sister, wife or mother and what if you were a woman ?
- Once you appreciate that you understand the need to respect women so people don't have 2 girlfriends neither is prostitution really accepted .. One wouldn't want one's sister to be an exploited prostitute .. would you as a man want to be an exploited prostitute ?
- so people don't have many girlfriends at the same time .. people don't have more than one.
- He didn't seem to realise that people lie about sex, the internet is full of lies and exaggerations

- BUT maybe there is better quality sex in the West even if I am right in saying there is probably less quanity, because you can be open and honest there ... So people learn to "do it right" and when you do it right : Life may not be like a sex movie, but sex itself is much more like a sex movie than a love story.

SUMMARY

- : They don't realise that this idea that Europe is like a porno movie is the sexual fantasy of idea of sex rather than the practical reality.
That's 5 big false dreams about sex. That In Europe there is more sex, 2. Asia is more moral, 3. Everyone has sex parties, 4. Foreign women like Asian men. 5. "Women want relationships and men just want quick sex" .

- Anyway He insisted he had to take the same bus as me. then he tried to say the fare was $5 for 50Km... outrageous I know the fares so I gave the busboy $1.20 .. the "friend" then got off at the next place.

not finished 11/1/200 a Stew Green Opinion
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